Positive thinking is about more than feeling happy. It’s about more than being happy. It’s about your way of thinking, your way of living. It’s something you’ll have to learn, especially if you tend to stick to negative thoughts. You’ll have to go through a process of getting to know yourself in order to fix your problems.
Don’t get rid of negative thoughts. Learn to embrace them
How do you get rid of negative thoughts? It seems impossible and you’re absolutely right about that. Don’t push them away – they will come back twice as bad. Instead, try to find some kind of connection. Learn to embrace it.
How can I turn those negative thoughts into something positive? For each negative thing, try to find something positive. For example: it’s getting winter and the days are getting darker and colder. The winter blues is coming closer. The negative thought in this situation: “I hate winter and I wish it was summer already”. Now try to find the opposite of this. It’s winter and you’ll have to get through it. Face it. Is there anything positive about this? Sure is. It’s that time of the year to snuggle up with a blanket and some hot chocolate. You can’t do this in the summer, right?
You don’t have to be the super optimistic person all the time
… And that’s okay. Really, you don’t have to do this. In fact, no one is able to do this – but you can try to stay as optimistic as possible. Having a bad start of the day doesn’t mean it’s going to be a bad day. Not necessarily.
I get it – everything is going wrong… the alarm didn’t go off, you’re rushing to work, you’re late at work and missed a meeting with your boss, your computer keeps freezing… You’ve been there. I’ve been there.
Instead of thinking “it’s going to be like this all day, I should just go home”, try thinking “it’s one of those days again but I’ll make the best of it and I’ll get through it”. Laugh it away. Okay, it might be a shitty day but it’s not a shitty life.
Try to focus on positive things
When something bad happens, it will ruin your entire day. When something good happens, it will brighten up your day. Unfortunately, when something bad happens, we keep this in mind for the rest of the day and end up complaining about it (preferably to as many people as possible).
Don’t focus on that one bad thing but try to find some of the good things that happened during the same day. There will be one bad thing and you’ll be thinking “there wasn’t anything good today” – but try to dig a little deeper. There has to be something, even if it is something stupid like “I went to the supermarket and my favorite pack of cookies wasn’t sold out”.
Think about it. It’s all in the little things.